I started writing this post during our 1st month of the Yoga In Action class theme. During September, we explored self care as an avenue toward selfless service.
The anniversary of 9/11 was looming when I started this post. On the 10th, I’d flown back to DC from Nashville, where I spent Rosh Hashanah with my dad. Each year, observing the Jewish High Holy Days launches an earnest exploration of forgiveness and reconciliation. So the visit to TN was good but intense. Coming home from the airport, I drove past an outdoor Ramadan break-fast. All women, seated at a super-long banquet table, eating and smiling and festive. Beautiful. 10 days later, on Yom Kippur, I would be observing a similar ritual.
The next morning, 9/11, I drove past the Pentagon on the way to teach a class in Virginia. I was unexpectedly shaken. Although a friend died as a result of the New York attacks, I’m never sure how the anniversary will affect me from year to year. This year I cried in front of my class while talking about Sutra 1.33 (the Four Locks & Keys) and how this practice can lead toward forgiveness.
The Sutras teach that the goal of yoga is to clear disturbances from the mind. Sutra 1.33 suggests practicing compassion to the unhappy, friendliness toward the happy, delight toward the virtuous and compassionate detachment from the non-virtuous. Not just essential for our own peace of mind, these practices help us see all beings as fallible and worthy of love.
I’ve written and shared about the four locks and four keys before. Almost always, I center my thoughts on how we can use these tools toward others who disturb us. For the sake of our Yoga In Action focus – particularly in prioritizing self care – can we offer ourselves that compassion, friendliness, delight and compassionate detachment? Can we forgive ourselves when unhappiness grips the day, and/or when we have acted less than virtuous? Can we delight in our virtues and befriend our happiness? Can we see ourselves as worthy of love?
During this year’s High Holy Day process, I meditated and reflected on both forgiveness and self-forgiveness. The wisdom of aphorism 1.33 from Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras is helping me have compassion toward myself and detach from my honest human condition and mistakes – so that I may focus on the positive, and when necessary, make authentic, non-guilt-filled amends and work toward reconciliation. This is Yoga In Action.
This timely juxtaposition of the Jewish New Year, Ramadan and 9/11 gave me the opportunity to consider yoga’s ideological wisdom as part of my High Holy Day reflections. By including forgiveness and self-forgiveness in my New Year intentions, I am committed to self care and therefore able to offer my peace of mind outward, in service to others.